I was talking the other day with my girlfriend and our friend. We have a friend that is marrying quickly, and the conversation turned to how love is built. Is there a time frame? Does the atmosphere need to meet certain requirements? If you focus enough, can you love someone in under a month?
We came to the conclusion that "love" takes time, without exception. As our friend said, "if you would lose your partner in life, love would convince you that you could not live any longer; that kind of connection takes time."
So, if you start to think about it, every movie with a romantic spin seems to end just after the guy finally catches the girl and clears up some confusion or obstacle. The woman runs to the guy, and we have a happy ending.
That's it. No walking around the house, picking up underwear left on the couch, picking at someone's habits, getting offended by your partner's behavior at a party, watching them have an emotional tantrum... none of that. We're convinced that once love is started, there's no stopping it! It's like something created between two people that takes no longer than to time necessary to recognize it than to have it.
This is probably nothing new for women; I suppose girls are taught to chase this whole "love" thing from the time their born. The princess rescued by the prince, Barbie goes with Ken, mommy and daddy, etc. You see the results in teenagers and folks that need to have a partner no matter what. According to this logic, the way I started this off with "I was talking the other day with my girlfriend..." implies I'm happy because I "have someone".
In this case, it just happens to be true. But, for a lot of people, they just seem to concentrate their efforts on finding that one person who's going to make them happy. If that person comes with conditions or problems, people tend to wait it out or put up with it.
Moral is...
Love doesn't happen because you decide it does. It's just as much a wonder and spender as it is the bitter, hard-earned toleration of life with one person that can pull both your heart strings and the very fabric of your rational senses.
Life doesn't wait for this Barbie or Ken, it just seems to include them along the way. You have no control over this. All you can do is live your life, concentrate on yourself, and prepare for the story the goes far beyond a "happy ending" and rolling credits.
I was talking the other day with my girlfriend and our friend. We have a friend that is marrying quickly, and the conversation turned to how love is built. Is there a time frame? Does the atmosphere need to meet certain requirements? If you focus enough, can you love someone in under a month?